The month of February is almost done and dusted! And we’re 8 weeks into the New Year! Already conversations are springing up about goals falling behind, being tweaked or being dropped.
It got me thinking about this movement that we all buy into (or do we).The movement of New Year’s goals and resolutions. And I’m left wondering why so early into the year there’s a separating from the goal.
Have you considered the why behind the goals you’ve set? Are they deeply truly yours? Or are they being triggered by a comment or request or instruction from a boss, a loved one, a friend, a TV show or movie? To what degree do you buy into the why behind your engagement with this goal?
Let’s take the why behind one that so many of us know: This year I’m going to lose weight.
What do you think of each time you remind yourself of the goal? Well yes! You remind yourself that you’re overweight, that you don’t feel good about yourself. How then do you believe that you’re going to be any different this year? Yes, you may start out well but the weight doesn’t drop as quickly, or there are a number of late client dinners … you get the picture.
What if you decided you want to be healthier and this doesn’t necessarily mean lose weight at the gym, it could be a case of eating only one bowl of pasta a week and not every day.
When we programme our brains to think positively we are setting ourselves up for greater success in that the emotions surrounding the goal are more positive and the actions that support the goal appear to be easier.
And then of course it’s necessary to check out the why! Whose goal is this anyway? How many of our goals aren’t even ours? What success rate do we even think we’re going to achieve? And what about the resentment that may creep in towards the person or goal? Are we even aware of that?
How about then, taking some time to reconsider your goals. Checking out your why; how you might ‘do’ the goal differently, what your desired results are and what is one action that you can take today that will create your desired outcome?
P.S. Did you know that the University of Scranton’s research suggests that only 8% of people achieve their New Year’s resolutions!